broken glasses and worn out shoes

October 31st, 2014

A botched reimbursement from my training last week had put my family in some temporary financial dire straights. I am still out of pocket (but the issue is now addressed, and money should be arriving soon) for a HUGE chunk of cash that covered my hotel room for the week. Although it has caused stress on me from every possible angle, I am still happy that I made this investment in myself and my career. Abbe has been a freaking rock for me. Dammit, I love this woman.

I am reminded of going without on a daily basis by two very important objects. These are my glasses. I need to replace them. I need an eye exam (last one was 10 years ago). Abbe glued them together as best she could. I think it looks like I’m intrigued when the one side of the lens pops up like an interested eyebrow…


And these are my running shoes. There are 904.6 miles on these shoes. I know that number to be exact because I track all of my runs. The heels are falling apart…


And the toebox has very little support left too. I like to think that I’m transitioning into minimalist shoes…


I’m fine with both of these very important things that I need nearly every day. I give up spending money on new running shoes even though I’m training for a marathon because I am happy to pay for my son’s ice time and my daughter playing soccer. I am perfectly content to wear those embarrassing glasses (stop my cubicle at work, and watch how fast I take them off to avoid people noticing) because I would rather wake up at 6am to drive my son to an ice hockey game somewhere in North Jersey (spending money on meals and gas). Abbe is right there with me too. She leaves work early to help Viv get to soccer practice. And she gives up time consistently to help the kids with their activities or with studying.


We don’t hear thank you often or somedays, at all.

But that’s OK, I put on my shitty running shoes at a way-too-early o’clock so I don’t disturb anyone else’s schedule, or put on my glued-together glasses to get to work every morning – and I smile, because I love all of these people for whom I sacrifice.

Speaking of running, I made up some ground with my fundraising the past few days. I am now at 82.5% of my goal! I only have $175 to go to reach my goal of $1000 raised for Athletes Vs. Epilepsy. Let’s do this!

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Make a Donation, Get your Design on a Lunch Bag!

October 29th, 2014

1656360_10152257011462574_460382926978099283_nIt’s been about two months into the new job and it has been as well as could be expected. Being back at TD has been a relief. Our money problems haven’t gone away as of yet, but the long term view is definitely brighter than where it was headed. I spent last week in training for work and although that was awesome for the job, the out of pocket expenses have severely affected all things moolah-wise. That will all be better once the reimbursement comes through. It’s just tough getting through what the past 6-8 months of working for myself did to us as a family.

My training has been going great for Philly. The fundraising for Athletes Vs. Epilepsy needs some help. I’m currently at 72.5% of my goal, with only $275 to go. Abbe is at 83.5%, with only $165 to go. Please consider a donation if you are able to do so.

As an incentive to those of you that have enjoyed Abbe’s lunchbag artwork, any donation of $25 or more to either myself or Abbe gives you the ability to request a bag design. If you are local, we will give you the bag too!

Van Jr’s ice hockey team has been steamrolling opponents left and right. They bring a nasty brand of hitting along with some seriously great goaltending. Viv’s soccer team also has really found it’s groove, crushing the opposition week in, and week out. Having both kids on successful teams has made this year a lot better.

Abbe, the kids, and I are looking forward to Halloween. The kids are going to go hogwild with the candy, and Abbe and I can’t wait to see more reactions to our costumes this year. We are keeping it a secret, but we wore them at a Halloween party this past Saturday, and I made 6 kids cry.

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there… I posted something. Fine.

September 25th, 2014

сондажиOK, first off – sorry for the lack of posts. Life has been good and part of me felt like even when I had to time to write, the universe has a penchant for messing things up when life is good. So, I’m doing this on faith.

The new job has been awesome. My new boss is excellent. He’s patient and supportive. Really, really happy to be back wearing the green pin. I’m learning a lot.

The marathon training has been going great. After a mediocre start, my paces have been picking up pretty dramatically over the past couple weeks. I’m feeling healthy and strong. I am nearly halfway through my training plan- the runs will get longer and the potential of injury does increase, but I like the way this is going. I do, however, really need to get focused on the fundraising for Athletes Vs. Epilepsy a bit more. I’ve been stalled at 64% of my goal for a while now. I only need another $380 to reach that target. If you have been meaning to donate, now is the time!

Van Jr’s ice hockey season has been going well. He is learning a ton from an excellent coach. Viv’s soccer season has been excellent. Lots of exciting games and I love seeing my daughter starting to play with confidence.

Abbe has been decorating my lunch bags with a tenacity unforeseen by mankind. Also on IG.

And I am happy to say, I’ve come back to iOS. Holy crap, that’s better. I am really, really, really happy with my iPhone 6.

Titan is still battling his fears…

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pin pride, phone issues, and makeover

August 31st, 2014

10631570_10152145221397574_1785116497_oSo it’s been three weeks since I’ve been at my new job with TD, and I’m so damn happy. It’s really great to be in the office and see friends that I haven’t seen in 5 or 6 years. I’m constantly being stopped in the hallways after someone approaching me starts to recognize me, they stare a little more, usually start pointing and saying, “Hey, you’re… you’re back!”

One of the things that have confirmed my decision to return to TD as a good one, have been the crazy number of folks that did the exact same thing that I did. Left the bank from concern over the acquisition, found that the grass wasn’t greener, and came back. I have run into at least 6 people that have taken that exact same path.

There have been some friends that have almost been consolatory when they learned that I decided to hang up the entrepreneurial shoes, and head back to the cubes. Truth is, I couldn’t be prouder. After I completed the orientation and was given my pin, I was a little teary. It’s been such a journey, and I’m so happy to be back in a place where I can provide for my family so they and I can grow together.

Yesterday, my Samsung Galaxy S4 just signed it’s own death warrant. I can’t use this phone any more. Maybe I’ve got a dud, but this phone is borderline dangerous for running. The GPS signal was apparently lost for nearly a full mile, and I didn’t realize it. I checked my pace and saw I was nearly two minutes below my normal pace. So I picked it up for the next few miles. After seeing the numbers not improve much more, I looked at the map. Well, when the GPS failed, it plotted me as running across Cooper River. Now, at one time I considered buying a Prius, but that doesn’t make me Jesus.

Much to my son’s delight (he will get my S4), I’m going to shell out some money at some point after my first paycheck (possibly wait until 9/9 when the iPhone 6 is released), and go back to the iOS fold. I know lots of folks swear by Android and the S4’s, but I haven’t met many that use it for truly long distance running and that’s where I have determined the phone is inadequate for my needs.

After our run, Abbe and I picked up the kiddos, had a really great dinner at Ott’s and then just relaxed. Abbe was also lucky enough to get a very intense makeover from Viv…


Abbe is such a good sport, it’s insane. Her makeover even came with a complimentary neck tattoo…


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a confident, ferocious beast

August 15th, 2014

1453262_10151691314287574_1775830428_nI’ve already mentioned a few times in my blog how happy I’ve been with Van Jr’s new ice hockey coach. And last night was yet another example of the positive effect his coach has had on him as a player and a young man. Here is an excerpt from an email sent yesterday afternoon prior to the Jags’ preseason game against Brick

If you could mention on the car ride to the game, that they need to be like a ferocious beast that hasn’t eaten in a week and the puck is a fresh piece of meat. When we lose possession of the puck, it is our job to attack quickly, aggressively and have a sense of urgency. The longer the other team has possession, the chances of them scoring goes up. I’ve used the analogy before about a sandbox full of toys. The rink is our sandbox, the puck is our toy and the other team is NOT allowed to touch or play with our toy.

The Jags responded with a 4-2 win. The Jags peppered the Brick goalies with over 40 shots in the game and did a great job of throwing their weight around on the ice. And here is an email I received from the coach late last night…

Wow! I was very happy with how the entire team played. Especially Van Jr. You should have seen the smile on his face when he came off after making that first check. He got the taste and threw a couple more checks during the game.

Please tell him he’s got it now and just needs to continue being physical and aggressive.

Bubs needed a few shifts to get hitting out there, but once he did – he was activated and in the game. He came home happy and talking with me about his “big huge checks” on the car ride home. I love the game of hockey, and love that my son shares that with me, but even bigger than all of this is I am loving the lesson of confidence that my son is garnering from playing this game. Go get ‘em, #13!

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