The past few months have been largely a positive arc with the job change, but the transition has been mired with some nasty snags. I quickly came to the realization that I can not shut down all side work, because the debt mountain that built up over the past few years is just not manageable given the past few months’ little surprises (car issues, sewer pipe) without a slight boost from the outside.
I came to a conclusion yesterday while on my way to work yesterday that I think will remove a layer of stress for myself and my son. He has been chomping at the bit to get more ice time, yet continues to not show aggressiveness during games. I have talked to him about what he needs to do and realized the largest problem is that he needs to be honest with himself and understand that sentence that is overused so heavily these days…
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
And in the spirit of changing things up, I’m stepping back to allow Van Jr. and his coach to work this out. I gave him some suggestions to help the situation. Whether he follows up on them, is entirely up to him.
I was happy to see him doing so on one of them already. The Jags have a very good player, that suffered a broken wrist, and is all but out of commission for the rest of the season. This injured player is a super teammate, and from what I have seen, a fantastic leader. After one game that my son was upset with his ice time, I asked him if there was any second year bantams that he would feel comfortable with asking advice. He named the injured teammate without hesitation. And it just so happens, with that injury, he stands on the bench with the coaches and is in the perfect position to offer advice to my son. Last night, he approached the injured teammate and asked for help. His teammate said “of course”, without skipping a beat.
That’s a big step for my son.
Although I’ve talked about how organization has been his issue with his schoolwork – it’s really about recognizing when help is needed and actually asking for it.
Just watch, my son is about to get better. He stays on this, he won’t be able to help it.
The Incredibly Inspiring Julie Kramer – Julie is a friend of several of our friends. She used to be a hostess at PJ’s (where we had our first date). What a crazy great moment for her.